For kids, the world is full of things they don’t know how to do. Every day, they go out in the world and have to conquer new information in school, learn how to form and maintain interpersonal relationships, and encounter countless pieces of new information. It can be easy to get overwhelmed by any one of these challenges without the right coping skills. I believe the most important thing you can do to build resilience in your child is giving them a growth mindset.
Having a growth mindset is the practice of reframing challenges as opportunities. Shutting down when overwhelmed with a new problem is a more fixed mindset. While no one is always in a growth or fixed mindset, by being mindful and giving our children the proper tools, we can set them up for success through hardship. This is a huge and healthy concept that can seem daunting at first, so let’s make it simple! We will examine two steps you can take to help your child have a healthy mindset in the face of adversity.
Start With ‘Yet’
The best word in the English language you could ever teach your child is the word ‘yet.’ This one word shifts their perspective from “I can’t do this math problem!” to “I can’t do this math problem yet.” Yet is often called the magic word, or the word with possibilities, and those are absolutely accurate monikers. Let’s dive into how you can integrate this word and concept into your family’s vocabulary to help your child know they are able to tackle difficult problems.
Start by bringing up the idea in a calm or pleasant moment. Avoid introducing it when your child is in an “I can’t do this” state, because they will already be less receptive to new information. Give them an example of something you would like to do, but can’t. For me, it’s learning a language. Tell your child that there is plenty you don’t know or cannot do. But does that mean you can’t ever